I really, really, truly want to give God control of everything in my life. And I don't know quite what I'm heading toward here, except something in writing to remind myself of my own expectations, specifically in the area of "more than friends" relationships. I know God is preparing me, and teaching me, and I can't ignore this feeling in my heart that I know is Him speaking to me. 
Now, let me say right away: I am not hunting down any sort of romantic relationship. I want only God's will for my life, and that includes Him deciding who I date and when. But at this very moment in time, I am having a hard time spitting out the most important thought in my mind: If you are not strong in your walk with the Lord, and are not in a position to take responsibility of the role of spiritual leader in your relationship with me, then stop where you are. Feel free to think about calling me when you are ready, but if that isn't happening now, then you need to figure it out.
I cannot compromise myself when it comes to this necessity. I can not and will not pursue a relationship with someone who is not actively pursuing the Lord first, and who isn't ready to be the godly leader I need. I need to remember that this is a non-negotiable. I need to guard my heart (Proverbs 4:23) and protect myself. The Bible states very clearly in 2 Corinthians 6:14 says "Do not be yoked together with unbelievers". DON'T DO IT. Because eventually it will cost more than you bargained for.
I know personally I have trouble with living this out sometimes in the sense that I think I can fix people; and because I'm sometimes flirty without intending to be, which isn't fair to anyone. But I have to remember that it's not my job to change people. Only God can work in their hearts. So I have to continue to give Him control.
Ladies, don't trust words- trust actions. Trust honesty, and respect, and caring. Don't compromise.
A helpful links: http://www.relevantmagazine.com/life/relationships/10-guys-you-should-never-date
